Don't expect everyone to understand your journey...

 

 

How much of our lives do we spend attempting to get people to understand how we feel...?  We talk and rephrase to a point where we become frustrated in not eliciting the response that we want.  I have my husband say to me in our less than 'loving' moments '...you just don't like what I have to say' as though somehow I am going to agree or understand because I am required to do so - like the epiphany will happen if I just don't resist - if I were to buckle down and peer into the reality that he has shared.

 

I acknowledge that I don't understand his journey, I have never walked in his shoes and his path is his own.  Even though we have 25 years of married coexistence, parented and raised four children and shared many of the same experiences - his perception, his understanding is his own - and mine is mine.

 

I often think that I have great wisdom that I can share with those that have navigated a similar path as mine...but how arrogant to think that my path is similar or in anyway the same.  Whether it is marriage/divorce, a birth or death, a robust or flailing business, an addiction or a life of perceived freedom - the content and context can be the same - but the personal journey...the personal path that is walked... has a 'common uniqueness' at best.

 

So what do we do for ourselves as people judge our paths - thoughts - or strive to decipher our emotions?  And as well, what do we do for others as we interact with them as they are on their own personal journey? How can we save ourselves and love them without judgement? 

 

For me it will be thoughtful purpose in my own life and the interactions that I have with others.

 

I want to always acknowledge & validate but never assume that I understand.

I will try to listen without feeling that sharing my own experiences will help -

when they really serve me.

When I share my story - I will not require a response or be disappointed by one.

If you are in distress - I will not judge but love you.

When you need the space - or need closeness - I will let you just be.

...and if I need the space - or closeness - I will allow myself to just be.

 



Dig within...

“Make New Year's goals. Dig within, and discover what you would like to have happen in your life this year. This helps you do your part. It is an affirmation that you're interested in fully living life in the year to come.

Goals give us direction. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, conscious, and subconscious level. Goals give our life direction.

What would you like to have happen in your life this year? What would you like to do, to accomplish? What good would you like to attract into your life? What particular areas of growth would you like to have happen to you? What blocks, or character defects, would you like to have removed?

What would you like to attain? Little things and big things? Where would you like to go? What would you like to have happen in friendship and love? What would you like to have happen in your family life?

What problems would you like to see solved? What decisions would you like to make? What would you like to happen in your career?

Write it down. Take a piece of paper, a few hours of your time, and write it all down - as an affirmation of you, your life, and your ability to choose. Then let it go.

The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Hazelden Meditation Series

 

 

Dear Friends...I couldn't have written anything as eloquant or thoughtful to ponder as Melody has...  Happy New Year to all ... I wish for you joy, peace, passion and the warmth of God's love for you in 2013!

 

 

 

 

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